Love relations are delicate relations, these must be made stronger. If you really want a close, vibrant love relationship, be the master of commitment. Few people know about the art of commitment, but almost nobody knows how to practice it.
Firstly, spot and admit the unconscious commitments that cause to counteract the harmony of the close relationships. The act of claiming ownership of an unconscious commitment changes a troublesome dynamic in a relationship faster than anything else. Make the commitments you can stand by. Real commitments can be made only about things you have control over. A real commitment would be to commit to telling your partner the truth about when you are feeling loving and when you are not.
If you really want long-term, close and creatively vital relationship, you have to become emotionally transparent. For the ultimate closeness and full creative expression, you must eliminate all the barriers to speaking and hearing the truth about everything: feelings, hopes, deeds, dreams. Never blame or criticize your partner.
Sometimes it results well when you take full responsibility for everything that occurs in relationships, especially if it seems like it is the other person’s fault. Do something radical about the creativity, take your attention away from fixing the other person and put it on expressing your own creativity. It is necessary to become a master of verbal and nonverbal appreciation, if you really want to create vital, long-lasting love.
A heartfelt appreciation to the partner is really good, but it is rare in couples, and to receive such an appreciation is quite challenging. Simply speak a heartfelt 10 second appreciation to the other person, for no reasons other than to signify a commitment to appreciation and to open the flow of appreciation. Bear in mind that appreciation not be spoken as a manipulation or in expectation of any reward.
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Submitted by admin on Thu, 05/31/2007 - 07:11.